The Ultimate Female Orgasm

Although everyone into the BDSM scene has heard of endorphins, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, what the  “endorphin high” is all about, and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone Domming another so that they may successfully send their bottom into a very deep endorphin stupor (also known as leaving them in a big puddle of quivering ecstasy”).

The endorphin high is caused by a bunch of natural, morphine-like chemicals the body pumps into the brain to reduce a person’s sensitivity to pain and raising the pain threshold. The fact that the body seems to release these endorphins in measured “loads” is a key to understanding how to manipulate  the body to produce these loads and release them into the body and brain region when the load is ready.

Another chemical, adrenaline, is also produced by the body in reaction to pain, and its behavior should be understood also. This is covered later more thoroughly in the section on aftercare, which is a very essential element in guaranteeing the success of the effort.

The endorphin loads release in their entirety, and it takes the body about ten minutes to generate another one. After the body releases a load into the system, it needs at least ten minutes of some sort of stimulation before it will be ready to release another one. This stimulation can be just about anything – sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or light caning, for example – and it does not have to be nearly the intensity of the stimulation that caused the release of the last endorphin load.

Once prepared, an increase in stimulation over a five-minute span up to a measured “climax” will trigger the body to release the freshly-prepared load, based upon the submissive’s current pain threshold, measured to push them over a new edge.

DO NOT TRY any of this unless you are a VERY experienced Dom!

Armed with this information, what does a session look like from the Dom’s and subs’s points of view?

When a scene first starts, there are no endorphins in the submissive and even fairly light torment is very stingy, ouchy, and, well, painful! Fortunately, the body keeps an endorphin reserve in place ready to release in case of an emergency. This reserve endorphin load is released after just a few minutes of even relatively mild stimulation building to a mild climax, and suddenly the pain threshold clearly rises. Now, the sub can easily tolerate what may have been pushing the limits before, making her jump around and squirm, for instance. This new, more pain-tolerant state is Level One. There is no altered state of consciousness yet, but there is an increased pain threshold.

Once this has happened, for the Dom the next 10 minutes is spent doing anything that provides relatively light but constant stimulation to induce the sub’s body to create the next endorphin load for release. This is a good time for sensation play, light paddling, flogging, or whipping. This is a chance for the Dom to relax, since the stimulation can be very mild and easy to apply during this time.

Once the ten minutes has passed, a build in intensity over a subsequent five-minute period will excite the body to a peak, and a sudden 10 to 15 seconds of intense stimulation just beyond the sub’s current pain threshold limit will trigger the body to eject its freshly-made endorphin load into the bloodstream. Now the sub will be at  Level Two, with still no perceivable altered state of consciousness (beyond panting in relief that you, the Dom, have ceased with the intense bit), but there is a considerable and noticeable leap in pain threshold now.

Following this, another ten minutes of mild, easy stimulation provokes the body into generating the next load. Keep this well below the pain threshold you’ve now created, with just a little intense whack every so often, about a minute apart. This will keep the adrenaline build-up to a minimum, for reasons explained later on. Time to relax, Doms; rest that arm and wrist a bit! This relaxing ten minutes is followed with five minutes of building the intensity again to well above the previous level. The sub’s pain threshold is pretty high now and she can take a lot more before the body interprets this as being “in crisis” and triggers the next endorphin release. Finish off with 10 seconds to a minute of a very intense, over-the-edge push, and the body will inject that next load.

Now at  Level Three, the sub will definitely feel a little bit woozy, exhibiting a mildly-drugged state. Her eyelids should appear droopy, and she will fall into a more relaxed condition than before, more low moans and groans, and lower inhibitions. Again, applying ten minutes of any relatively mild stimulation followed by a five-minute build and a 10- to 15-second intense climax well beyond the previous one will release the next endorphin load and push the sub into a very nice Level Four head space.

At this Level Four state, there is a very definite altered state of consciousness.  The sub will feel drugged and will be very compliant and submissive now. This is countered, however, by the largest charges of adrenaline she has received so far, the result of the intense climax just used to push her over this edge. The sub is still quite communicative and her reaction time is still quick. The sub may even be hypersensitive: a small whack with a paddle, cane, or whip can now generate a huge amount of twitching or jerking of her body. Now, during the ten minute “treading water” period for the Dom, the moans and groans will be longer and deeper, the body often limp in its restraints, and the reactions to the occasional harder strikes will be obvious. This is the Dom’s finest time: he  can still relax and not exert himself very hard, yet produce fine moans of ecstasy from his sub with hardly any provocation! The pain threshold is high even though the reaction time is increased from the adrenaline. Harder occasional strikes are welcomed, and the reactions are certainly encouraging!

Sexual play with the sub should occur around Level Three or Four. After after hitting Level Five, the sub may be unable to concentrate for long on what she is doing. That can result in passionate and inhibition-free indulgence, resulting in heights of ecstasy never before experienced, or the sub may be unable to concentrate. There’s no telling which way the sub will go once she achieves Level Five or Six.

After this ten minute endorphin replenishment period, it is important to be very sensitive to the limit levels crossed earlier, as the Dom begins that five-minute build in intensity that will end in the most intense limit-pushing the Dom might do with the sub for this session (presuming the Dom stops at Level Five). The sub will have a very high pain threshold at this time, but also will be fairly groggy and less able to communicate a safe word. In fact, the sub will now be so compliant that it is very unlikely that she would use it even if she ought to do so! So, push this “grand finale” with finesse and sensitivity to what is going on with the sub! At the other end of the 10- to 30- second climactic build in intensity – in a wonderful blast – this latest endorphin load will push the sub into Level Five: a state of supreme ecstasy, docility, and the sub’s ability to take just about anything the Dom could do to her. The sub will become very limp and relaxed very suddenly – and be very clearly in an altered state of consciousness.

This is the point most people end the scene and remove the bottom to cloak her in a blanket and begin the all-important aftercare, and unless the Dom knows the sub extremely well, this is where the session should end. However, for those who do know the sub’s limits, the rules and timing are the same as with the earlier segments. Now, the “mild” stimulation could be fairly intense, and the sub will become extremely submissive and accepting of any amount of stimulation the Dom bestows upon her. This is a dangerous condition because there is NO WAY a person will utter a safe word in this condition. The sub can barely talk at all! It is best to keep the stimulation relatively intense but not too extreme. The stronger intensity will hold up the adrenaline levels, and the combination with the elevated endorphins levels creates a condition of intense excitement and of simultaneously intense ecstatic relaxation for the sub, so she’ll be into receiving whatever is being doled out. (More on adrenaline in a minute, though!) Again, finish off after the ten minutes with a building in intensity to one beyond that reached earlier, with a 10- to 15-second extreme point, and the next endorphin load will be released. Now we have brought the sub to a very amazing  Level Six! Again, this should only be attempted with a sub whose limits and abilities are already very well known. The Dom is working without the benefit of safe words being utterable; care must be exercised this whole while.

The sub’s behavior can become unpredictable at this point with all the adrenaline and endorphins coursing through the body.  Be prepared to restrain against some wild thrashing and arm flailing (or at least be out of harm’s way). The sub is in such an intensely altered state of consciousness that her reactions could possibly be extremely primitive in nature. She may only be capable of animal-like noises and very little speech. Following this reasoning, approach the subject as you would a wild animal: very gently, speak soothingly, and gesture in a calming manner. Be prepared for sudden jerking, or attempts to get away. Don’t take the erratic behavior personally! At Level Six, this person is totally ga-ga! Be assured, the sub is enjoying every millisecond of this experience, and a very long period of dreaminess is now in store for her if the aftercare is handled properly.

Why do I go on and on about the aftercare? The work of putting endorphins into the sub’s body is finished, right? Well, yes, but you have also succeeded in putting very, very large amounts of adrenaline into the sub’s system, and adrenaline is tricky stuff. Even at Level Four, aftercare is important because of how quickly adrenaline burns off compared to endorphins, which burn off very slowly. At Level Five or Level Six, there is enough adrenaline in the body that it will take at least 10 to 20 minutes for it to burn off (or longer). During this time, the sub is likely to experience a number of adrenaline crashes (similar to caffeine withdrawals). Some of these can be intense and even quite frightening. The sub will need to be kept warm and be held and comforted AT LEAST throughout this period of adrenaline burn-off. My opinion is that if you don’t care enough for the sub to cuddle and caress them for up to half an hour, you probably shouldn’t be taking them to any Level Six endorphin/adrenaline levels.

The adrenaline “crash” experience for the sub is something many, many Dom's are unaware of, and they have no concept of the amount of harm they could be doing to someone’s psychological state by not performing adequate, comforting aftercare. All the sub needs now is to be held and to hold you (or whoever you assign to perform aftercare), to be comforted by your presence, and to be allowed to make you become the entire focus of their awareness. No stroking, or massage, or other stimulus is needed or even desirable at this time. What is important is to keep in contact with the sub (not requiring words as responses, merely nods), and instruct the sub every little while to relax. The adrenaline will have her in a very agitated state – with high heart beat and breathing levels – and this situation is completely counter to the endorphin experience. Sure, the sub has a ton of endorphins in his system, but the adrenaline is presently holding the endorphins off and the sub isn’t experiencing their full effect. The Dom’s guidance is extremely important to help the sub relax through the adrenaline burn-off period.

If not actually “talked down” out of the adrenaline agitation, the sub could easily never allow herself to relax enough to even feel the massive content of endorphins that currently exist in his system! Maybe you’ve seen a sub who –  after an hour of intense stimulation to the point of near-total collapse on the cross or bench –  is released and after a mere couple of minutes is mingling with people as if nothing ever happened. These people are floating on a self-sustained adrenaline buzz. This is not only unhealthy, but these sub's are also cheating themselves out of a long, long stretch of total endorphin-induced ecstasy!

Aftercare Instructions

While gently holding the sub and letting her hold you back, coo softly and comfort her, and tell her to let herself relax. You will feel her do so as she complies to your wishes, as she is quite docile and open to receiving instructions at this point. But she will also slowly tense up again from the adrenaline. Keep reminding her to relax, telling her to give herself permission to relax totally.

As the sub begins to relax after a while, she may experience a frightening “falling off a cliff” feeling that makes her tense again, or “blackness” as the endorphins relax the sub’s optic nerve. This is a side effect of the chemicals burning off. The Dom’s job is to reassure the sub that these experiences are completely normal, to let go and pass through it. The sub has to relax through the sensation of falling or blackness with the understanding that this is quite normal and is a common experience. Once she does that, having “relaxed through it,” she will be “in it” after that point, and will relax deeply, often seeing beautiful technicolor visions and dreamlike landscapes, spaces, and places. 

Once this happens, your sub needs only a little more loving attention, and can then be left bundled in a blanket somewhere on their own to float in a happy bubble, very possibly for hours!

“Flying”

There is another factor that can produce an altered state of consciousness far, far beyond even that of the most extreme endorphin experience. This is experienced by submissives whose intense focus upon their Master or Mistress (their Dominant) – and upon pleasing them – eventually leads to a hallucinogenic kind of altered state known commonly in the BDSM community as “flying.” This word has an almost mythological aura in the scene for very good reasons! It is probably the most profound experience one can have as a submissive. It involves a state of intense devotion towards the dominant (who is not just a mere “Dom” at this point) that borders upon religious worship, with complete trust and a total commitment to please and satisfy the Dom thoroughly. Through the attainment of a complete selflessness and focus on the Dom, a transformation takes place that is very, very deep, almost trance-like. It can become so profound as to produce an extended, blissful hallucinogenic state. Many have reported even seeing visions under the spell of this “flying” effect. All have attested to the profound sense of peace and bliss they have experienced while even near the edge of this state.

I remember quite clearly with a former of mine who experienced a s-l-o-w build up of orgasms which increased in intensity and duration. from number 1 being very mild to number 36 where she felt herself having an out of body experience, floating upwards and looking down on us both, before slowly gliding back down into her physical body until she was back in full awareness of her surroundings again and able to speak. Even then it took fifteen minutes for her to be able to walk properly on her own and without support from experiencing 'jelly legs'.

This flying state can be attained by some with very little endorphin content in their systems. (Some claim no endorphins are required, but I’m quite certain most experienced subs have attained at least a level Three or Level Four endorphin high in order to trigger the total release of inhibitions that this psychological state seems to require, at least generally speaking.) With practice, the release into this “flying” submissive-space should come easier and easier, eventually with even a mere suggestion triggering the effect for some with very little or even no endorphin content being in the picture. COMBINED with the Level Five or Six endorphin head space, there likely can be no deeper state of ecstasy possible for the sub — short of total enlightenment! Until such an experience of full enlightenment can be accomplished, perhaps the attainment of this interim bliss is acceptable, and certainly should be considered an attractive and enjoyable state to be in! The secret ingredients are: intense focus; a commitment to please the Dominant utterly; and, complete and total devotion. These ingredients – with some endorphins in the mix – should produce a quite satisfying effect for both the submissive and the Dominant.

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